Well, today is the first day of the rest of my life. A new broom. A clean sweep and all that. Today’s post is on the rather enigmatic side, I’m afraid. I’m not sure where I’m going with any of this, I have to say. I think my head needs a bit of a sort out, too.
I AM actually spring cleaning. I want things tidy and clean. I love the smell of a fresh home and am busy with the steamer (and when The Steamer gets together with Iron Man, it’s laundry madness – Vic Reeves). Am busy with the vacuum cleaner and the carpet shampooer as well. I have a range of cleaning products and dusters, cloths and scourers enlisted for duty and all at the ready. All systems are go and the lounge looks like Houston Central with the number of electronics lit up with On and Ready lights.
On the figurative level I am spring cleaning as well! So a vague vent – but very cryptic. I have ensured that nobody will know who I’m venting about – no passive-aggression here. I’m not good at ‘guess how I feel’ and the person involved will get my take on things in person. I’m not going in for a fight or confrontation just a good old plain talk conversation. Not that I relish the idea either but am embracing some words of wisdom (Ian Fleming, not me) that you might find useful too.
I will start with a quote:
This particular quote is great for boundary setting. Have you been suckered and wondered if the person doing the taking realises they’re taking from you (doesn’t matter what they’re taking – your time, your energy, your emotions, your material possessions, etc…) then this quote is for you. Fret no more about analysing the taker’s head and trying to work out if they are callously exploiting you.
Decide that even if they haven’t consciously planned to do so, they are still not considering you in the:
‘Me Take – You Give‘ equation.
So, say you start going to a cake decorating class and the same person ‘forgets’ key equipment or ingredients EVERY WEEK and homes in on you as their benefactor. Once is happenstance, twice is coincidence. But the third means it’s time for enemy action.
So three strikes and they’re OUT. OK? Even if you have plenty of icing sugar or egg white or have THE icing nozzle of the session….., in fact, especially if you have plenty. Shut them down. Nip it in the bud. Just say ‘No’. Say you need it for later and can’t spare any. You don’t HAVE to justify or explain your position. You can be polite, even gracious, as you say No but just say it! Put your boundary up. This may have actually happened a few years ago but this post isn’t about them.
1. Remember the three-strike rule. Listen to your intuition and make like a guided missile to zero in on invasive and hostile actions from others.
2. Never listen or worse – SPREAD – gossip! Ever seen or read the play by John Patrick Shanley called ‘Doubt’? The parable of the pillow filled with feathers?
3. Who are you to feel small? Check my post for the rest of that inspirational missive.
And as the the first day of the rest of my life? Let’s just say if you know the Tarot and I say The Tower appeared along with some other cards and warned, nay, PREDICTED upheaval and unpleasant and life-changing events… let’s just say it all came to be and I learned some hard life lessons.
But now, the tide is turning and things are starting to look up. The rest is down to me and the path I follow.
There. Now to get physical with the power cleaning and chuck out the rubbish in my life to clear the way for great new stuff to come in.
Ahhh. That’s better.